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Post by lari on Jul 19, 2022 0:16:20 GMT
15 years of marriage, 3 children. Three weeks ago she says maybe we need to think about separation. I thought that was a warning - I better put in some effort, hey. That was my thinking. But OH STUPID LARI, it's not so. (And no, Stuy was not my wife). Today I find out she already got a boyfriend. Either she was very fast, or she's been fucking around for awhile. And stupid me was thinking there was still a chance we can work it out, we can be happy again, not knowing she was already playing her games.
So now she is going on a vacation (= dissolute fucking) with this home-breaker dude, from Wednesday to Saturday while I'm watching the kids. Our kids. I said I hate it, but I can't stop her. She is free to do as she pleases. Because fuck her.
To keep sane, I'm going to need something to welcome her back to our home. What do I do?
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Post by khawk20 on Jul 19, 2022 1:20:50 GMT
Sorry that happened to you.
…maybe rotten fruit in her underwear drawer? Just blame the kids.
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Post by HawkDad on Jul 19, 2022 4:13:32 GMT
Swedish maid(s) while she's gone, hell, they can answer the door when she returns. She can't get in because you already changed out the locks.
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Post by Merpes on Jul 19, 2022 14:09:16 GMT
That sucks (and she sucks). Is Finland like US where husband basically has no rights and gets trampled on in the Just Us system?
Are there coed saunas to visit? I’d start doing that or maybe just go homo. That will show her that you can boink guys better than her.
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Post by dbc on Jul 19, 2022 17:23:17 GMT
She still is living with you? I guess the three week warning tells you how much future planning she does-very little. I’d find her an apartment before she gets back an move her shit in there. You will go crazy lari if you try to plot any revenge. It’s obviously time to move on, and prolonging the move will only make it harder. Sorry to hear all this bud.
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Post by garyu on Jul 19, 2022 23:34:27 GMT
Change the locks. Pack her shit up and leave it on the front porch. Take the kids outta town Sat and Sunday..Let her feel some pain. It sucks, man.
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Post by jimc on Jul 20, 2022 15:21:18 GMT
yup...pack her shit up and have it waiting outside when she returns
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Post by Merpes on Jul 20, 2022 19:16:47 GMT
You guys seem too nice to pack her shit. I’d be taking it to Goodwill.
Now it’s possible that Lari has been a total douche as a husband and why she felt the need to separate, but you don’t go fucking some other dude before there is a clean break.
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Post by lari on Jul 20, 2022 21:13:47 GMT
Update: the homebreaker dude is a co-worker of both mine and my wife's. WTF is he thinking? Ignored my efforts of working through our marriage just to get his dick wet? I can understand my wife, because she is an evil witch and would do anything to hurt me, but why is this guy also okay with it? I contacted him, I texted, he never replied.
I am in a higher position in our company than this dung heap of a man. I also am good friends with his direct supervisor. I don't feel like this is going to end well for him.
I personally feel a little better. I'm on my summer vacation, so I got my mates over (some recently divorced) and we did some drinking and male bonding (BTW why is every other person always naked when it's a boy's night?). The kids were at my (ex-)wive's parents but now I have them back and I'm going to spoil them silly. Somebody already said it's possible I'm a total douche of a husband and indeed I undoubtedly was many many times, because this whole marriage was toxic for at least the last six months as it was spiralling down (I never cheated, never hit her, but it was all loveless, cold, emotionless and hateful for a long time). The point is the kids are the only innocent ones in this mess.
For your viewing pleasure, a random video of European style boys night:
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Post by garyu on Jul 20, 2022 22:44:40 GMT
Nice that you're taking your part of the mess, BUT, there's no way she spends another night under my roof. She can stay with vacation boy.
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Post by Merpes on Jul 20, 2022 22:53:03 GMT
You never mow another man’s lawn. That’s dude 101.
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Post by lari on Jul 20, 2022 22:59:25 GMT
there's no way she spends another night under my roof This I feel is going to be an issue. We own the house 50/50 on the deed.
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Post by dbc on Jul 20, 2022 23:06:14 GMT
LOL There is so much wrong with that video. I can't even...
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Post by Merpes on Jul 20, 2022 23:43:02 GMT
Which one was Lari?
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Post by Merpes on Jul 20, 2022 23:48:39 GMT
I also have a feeling the finger that went up the poop chute wasn’t washed and everyone took turns smelling it.
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